Courting a woman vs dating
We are confronted with a massive predominance of amorality. It remains true that it is very unlikely that a girl will get pregnant if she does not go on a date.
For all that is in the world - the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life - is not of the Father but is of the world.
And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever."Is dating morally neutral?
Most parents think it is cute and natural to see their children's growing fascination with the opposite sex.
It doesn't matter because they survived the dating system, and here they are in church loving God.
(But as we shall see, they probably did not survive unscathed).
The fact that "everybody does it " is not a reason for continuing to do it, but a reason for questioning it.
Dating is in direct contradiction of the following scriptures that admonish us to flee youthful lusts (Eph ; 2Tim ); flee fornication (1Cor ). It is naive to think that an invitation to a Bible study has no romantic connotations, or to think that any form of male/female touching is not sexual - a "touch" is sexual. The prevalence of date rape proves that it is impossible for a woman to guarantee she can say no, after one hour of introductory intimacy.
"Flee" is not merely refraining from sexual intercourse, it means staying away as far as possible from the beginning of the process. It seeks self-satisfaction apart from the responsibilities of marriage. It ignores the biological facts of human sexuality.
Is it just an innocent cultural expression; the way we do things in the west in the present century? " Jim West has defined a date as, "Any planned event involving a shared activity between a man and a woman" - one person asks the other to share in an activity, and a publicly recognizable pairing occurs.
It always implies some kind of romantic interest, and both parties know this even if the date is going to a church meeting or to a Bible study. Compare this cultural norm with the one that prevailed in western civilization until the early part of this century.
To the all too common gibe, "You don't trust me," the only possible answer is - "True!