And so many people were hating on her in the school and she literally had no friends left except my sister.She was being called a slut and it got to her really badly, cause she suffers from anxiety and depression, and she wanted to kill herself.” A finsta: A fake Instagram account created under a different name, so that parents won’t know what their teens are up to online.

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During her 2½ years of research for “American Girls,” she was alarmed, though not shocked, by what she found.

(Most adult readers will be shocked, as Sales points out, by how wildly the adult experience of social media differs from that of a teen.

It’s not an occasional hobby, and most of the teens Sales spoke to told of how they were “addicted,” “obsessed” and “couldn’t stop” looking at their phones.

“For most American girls, social media is where they live,” writes Sales, who spoke to over 200 girls ages 13-19 from Manhattan to Florida, Arizona, Texas and Kentucky.

You’ll read an article about ‘sexting rings’ but what these articles miss is that it’s not at just one school. It’s become so common.” Other aspects of teen culture Sales discusses in the book: slut pages, where nude photos of a girl, originally sent to one boy, are distributed to others — i.e., a sexting ring — and then posted on Instagram accounts like “[Name of School] Hotties” or “[Name of Town] Hos” for everyone to view and comment on, often dismissively.

This is typically followed by a kind of schoolwide shaming (of the girl — never the boy) that calls to mind the tarring and feathering of Puritan New England, as was with a case from Boca Raton, Fla., which Sales details in the book.Recounts 13-year-old Julie: “[My sister’s friend] was having a hard time, she was acting out.She’s a senior in high school and she was caught giving head to a boy — it was at a party and somebody walked in and took a picture and it went all over social media.“And one of the girls told me that if you respond by saying, ‘How dare you? Pretend like you sent them a naked picture they got off the Internet and it’s not even you.’ ”) In a chapter called “Thirteen” (all of the book’s chapters are named for the age of the girls discussed therein), Sales describes Riley, Sophia and Victoria coming out of middle school at the end of the school day in Montclair.’ or get angry, they say you have no chill.” As 13-year-old Sophia explains to Sales in the book: “‘They judge you if you don’t send nudes like you’re a prude. The girls are all crowded around Riley’s phone, which displays a screenshot of a Snapchat from a boy at school named Zach, asking her for nude photos.Tinder food stamps: Using the dating app to exchange sex for free meals and other items, a sort of soft prostitution that has become normalized by social media.