Is it impossible to be really deeply happy and be alone? In that process I can see the clear differences in psychology between taking from a companion and giving to a companion.

If one's psychology is primarily as a taker, then the absence of a companion could be seen as a dearth, a hole, something missing, that being the care and love and generosity of another.

There is such a difference between what is available for men and woman.

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This guy has an excellent article about divorce depression in the November issue of Esquire magazine too. Most of us, at least the men of my generation, suffer divorce alone and in silence.

We may be out and about and seemingly engaged in society but that box within which the pain and grief of divorce resides is one we generally only pull out when alone.

If one is primarily a giver, the lack of a companion is definitely a dearth of someone to give to, but is that the same dearth and does it affect one the same way? I know I've always been comfortable being alone and enjoy thoroughly the interactions and giving which mark those interactions. Yes, I believe so, but the taking is not a marked aspect of, rather incidental to the dynamic in my psychology so, if it is missing, I don't feel an emptiness or lack.

I miss the enjoyment of giving a little, yeah, but don't miss the taking at all.

I was just wondering how difficult it was for you to get custody, do you receive child support from the mother, is she in the children's lives at all, etc.?? I got to tell my story, felt validated, and she helped me work through issues I didn't even know I had.

Are there are any divorced men here who have custody of their children? I got to tell my story, felt validated, and she helped me work through issues I didn't even know I had. Maybe my concern about being alone is more from habit than from actual need. "I can see the clear differences in psychology between taking from a companion and giving to a companion." I do know one thing, what made me happy was giving to her. She helped me during the divorce and settlement proceedings and luckily, somehow, we settled vs going to court.

Having been single so long, I got a chance to experience the divorces of good number of friends from a perspective of not being married.

Each was different but the common theme was go a little wild and put on a good face and it'll pass. Other than the drive to procreate and replicate and mold a young mind, nah, not really.

Would you be kind enough to offer any words of wisdom you have found during your healing.

Mine left me 6 weeks ago, I won't give full details as it will take a week for you to read but she had an affair 2 years ago I took her back and 6 weeks ago I returned home to find them in my bed together.

They walked past me together hand in hand after I left the house to sit outside and cry, the very next day she quit her job left her family and moved away with him. First off, she doesn't love you so you have to kill those feelings you have for her.