He’s either impulsive or, more likely, using you as a back-up girl when his other plans fell through. A grownup guy who truly wants to know you will get the message and ask you out ahead of time.A player or user guy will text you again in a few weeks wanting to see you that night. It’s all about how he FEELS when he’s with you, and he knows it.

If you want a little more, like a phone call first, it’s up to you to get off the texting treadmill and ask for what you want.

And if he is serious about meeting a woman for a real relationship, he will step up.

These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.

But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.

I’ve seen countless women create complete fantasies and get drawn in — often before they even meet a man. With no tonality in messages, texting back and forth creates enormous opportunities to misread and misunderstand intent.

I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from coaching clients with a text conversation pasted in and the question: What do you think he means (aka WTF)????

I get an enormous volume of contacts but these fifty year olds are like herding cats on caffeine. One second they’re super interested and then a day later it’s “hmmm, well, I’m not sure, yes, no, maybe, catch me if you can”.

They break up with me and then come back to renegotiate what I could best describe as a non-physical/friends with emotional benefits/rental husband offer (which doesn’t sound too appealing to me to be honest).

Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.