Daughter dating much older man
Our daughter still lives with us (and her 17-year-old brother) but frequently spends the night with this man.
Our 22-year-old daughter is dating a 38-year-old co-worker (he has his own home and a thirteen-year-old son who lives with the mother).
This man is on his second career, having lost his job as a welder and retrained in health care.
That was my experience from dating a much older man.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
(I know how that sounds: I cringe now just typing it.) But at the time, to us, it wasn't weird or taboo as much as this epic, forbidden romance. Before long we were all hanging out together, driving around in his car: T and me in the front, my friend and her boyfriend in the back. What I do remember is sitting on a couch with T., him putting on a Elton John song and telling me, in words I can't recall specifically, that he wanted to be my boyfriend. I just recall being almost to my house, when I told T. I could see my house now, coming up ahead."We need to discuss this," he said. Like me and Sydney, she will most likely yearn for attention at one point or another. But how can I teach her that it is just as OK to need that scrutiny to stop?
While they made out, we made conversation, thrown together in the awkwardness of nearby coupledom. She is more likely to decide to move on if you are not openly critical of him.Let her know that you think she is a sensible person and that you have confidence she will make the best decisions for herself.Our 17-year-old son who has gently voiced his opinion about how wrong he feels the age difference to be.We realize, and have told our daughter, that if this is her choice we will accept it, but we are not happy with it. Because of this, I was drawn to people like my best friend, who was dynamic and bold.