However long it takes, I finally manage to overcome my phone anxiety and give her a call.

Simple, I just didn’t feel a romantic connection to you. I decide what to talk about and write a few notes down on a piece of paper, but I have trouble picking up the phone. This is especially true when calling a stranger for a date!

The setup is girls sitting at tables, and guys rotating from girl to girl when the bell rings. To recap on my first speed dating experience, I ended up getting dates with 3 different girls out of it, with two of the girls being ones I would potentially have continued dating if they were interested.

Here it is: I am trying to get better at the old dating game, so I have a bit of an odd request for you. This reinforces that I need to start things off with an active date and really try to spark the attraction right from the start.

B: You know, since I’ve left BC, when I go back there to visit, it kind of feels like going backwards in a way. Since I want to learn more, I send her an email asking her to help me out. Now at the end of the day it sounds like things wouldn’t work between us anyway, but the key thing I take from this is that I need to get my more edgy, flirty side out there as quickly as possible.

…now you are probably thinking then why don’t you want to continue dating me? Once i have decided to call her, I sit there with my phone in front of me, thinking about what to say. I don’t know if I have mentioned this before, but I suffer from something I like to call “phone anxiety.” I absolutely hate calling strangers on the phone, and sometimes it takes considerable will-power for me to overcome this.

Bryan you are a sweetie and I think that you are a great guy! I could be wrong, but I think we are at different places in life. I decide that since I have never talked to her before, I had better use the richer communication channel of talking on the phone, rather than going with my default plan of texting.

B: No, I thought it would be smaller and more low-key. I get busy with work and don’t meet that many people, there’s only so much you can do about meeting a girl at a bar. B: I work for B: Yeah, well the thing I like about it is that it’s global. I bring along a thermos with hot chocolate, and we end up sitting on a bench overlooking the river and drinking hot chocolate as the sun set on the horizon. Overall the conversation is quite enjoyable, and she seems like a really cool girl.

B: Oh that’s a good question, one of my buddies suggested it, and I kind of scoffed at him and then I thought, why not? It’s a nice path that I scoped out the previous week while going for a run.

We meet up in the Kinsmen parking lot, and go for a stroll on the South side of the river.

B: Actually I quite like it out here, sunny in the winter and dry, not wet all the time or dark and dreary, you know. The call works quite well, and I find out she is in school for HR-type stuff, is currently dog-sitting, and is interested in meeting up the following week for a stroll in the River Valley. I tell her I will text her details for where to meet, and I do that as we approach the date.

Next thing you know, it’s time to roll, so we head down to Red Square. Petersburg, Helsinki, Stockholm, Oslo, Trondheim, Iceland. I don’t know about this whole 4 minute thing, it’s way too fast, I don’t know. G: Do you have family out here, or are they back in BC? It also definitely comes across as needy, so really if I did have any remaining chance with her, I have now totally bombed it. Hopefully you sort them out, and if you do and want to meet up again then send me a text. ” Definitely nothing more than that, and perhaps something less.