Indian culture and dating
Whilst he was hardworking and I believe his intentions are good, some of the personal habits I observed left a lot to be desired.The constant spitting (apparently due to chewing tobacco), public urination (and by this I mean pulling it out anywhere there is space and going), nose picking and staring at me (usually whilst also fiddling with their nether regions) are a few of the distasteful activities I observed.This denigrates the Indian man into something only marginally short of a sloth and depresses me even further. Then this one in Tehelka that essentially blames parenting styles, and mothers in particular, for molly-coddling their sons.
Also it is unclear to me if the separation of men and women (for example in the trains) is a reaction to the violence or the cause.
Feeling a little uneasy, I continue on with my internet research and find this blog on Reasons to Marry an Indian Man.
As a single, hetereosexual woman, its only natural that I spend some time observing the opposite sex as I go through my travels.
Whilst I am not looking for a long-term relationship per se, I do enjoy the company of men (platonic and romantic) and it would be nice to make some friends in my new homeland.
According to the article more than 65% of Indian men believed that women should tolerate violence to keep the family together and that women sometimes deserved to be beaten, furthermore 24% admitted to having committed sexual violence in their lives.
Whilst I have fortunately not come across anyone who has demonstrated these behaviours, it does seem to indicate that there are some deep seated issues in Indian culture where many men are treating women with little respect.The first serious site that showed up was number 7 on the list and it disturbed me.This article in The Times of India discusses a survey conducted on Gender Equality around the world, a survey that placed India last on the list.Whilst she was lovely and friendly, her presence changed our plans and the dynamic of our meeting.I have never encountered this before when meeting Western men or women for that matter. It all seemed strange, and quite honestly a little disappointing.After having arranged to meet someone (platonic or romantic) I generally turn up alone, or if I have reservations I may have a friend politely bid their farewells when they are comfortable the person I am meeting is not a criminal. He had a quick wit and a gorgeous smile, I would have liked to have spent some time getting to know him without a chaperone.