Sometimes I'll go down an Instagram hole, and all of a sudden, I feel weird about my career or life. I love it, but probably once a week, I've gotta put that down." If only we could all be so strong. "Your problems become easier to work through, because in the grand scheme of things, they're not that big of a deal. My girlfriends are helpful." She turns to get a good look at the vista and smiles.

Also the love aspect is super important, where you are really attracted to that person," she sighs.

"It's hard to find that, all wrapped up into one." Du￿ff's the first to admit that she's figuring some stu￿ff out right now, and it's a process, not an achievement.

"I don't have to prove to people that I'm an adult now. It's frustrating to be put in a box, but I never needed to wild out to show that I'm grown-up."Indeed, Duff's cut a quieter path than other Disney stars of her era: See Miley Cyrus, who's all but buried Hannah Montana in marijuana-print leotards, or Lindsay Lohan, star turned Oprah bait. That's not to say I didn't screw up and do little naughties here and there."She hinted at one such naughty in last summer's single "All About You," which starts, "You could be my dirty secret." Is Du￿ff the type to have an F￿ buddy? It's fun to have a secret."People have always wondered about Du￿ff's sex life, mainly when, exactly, she swiped in her V card. Maybe it wasn't, but we spent the majority of our time together really happy." Her view on forever-after has since shifted.

"I had a 26-year-old boyfriend," she says, referring to Good Charlotte's Joel Madden, who she started dating when she was a teen. "But then people do it all the time, like Chris Brown and Karrueche? Even her split from Comrie in January 2014 has been by all accounts amicable. "I don't want to sound bitter because I'm definitely not, but I don't know if people are meant to be together forever.

Her character, Kelsey, dater of douche bags and teller of masturbation jokes, is less Lizzie, more Liz Mc G — Lizzie's post-collegiate, corporate ladder-climbing alter ego. "She'll go out, have too many, then wake up and scramble to the office.

She's wickedly driven." Ah, yes, we all know and love a Kelsey."I was in a funky place." A call from Star led her to reconsider. [Kelsey] is grown-up but makes a shit ton of mistakes, which I loved. It wasn't working well enough to stay together, but there was still a lot of love involved.I didn't get to make many mistakes publicly in my life. It was just a slow set-in of us not being the match that we used to be.She sees a therapist whenever she needs "a little tune-up." As for what she's learning?"Being in touch with what feels good and what doesn't. And he's been drug- and alcohol-free for the past two years.