The first guy I properly dated was exactly a year younger than me (we shared the same birthday, I thought it was meant to be) and the last guy I dated was four years younger than me.

I recently found out that a musician I have a crush on is 21. However, women dating younger men isn’t weird to me – my dad is younger than my mum, my uncle is way younger than my aunty and my brother is younger than his wife. Me and my best friends have a running joke that we always fancy hot, younger guys (We’ll always have a thing for fresh-faced indie boys, God love ’em). ) and thought I’d increase my age limit to 39 to see if there were any silver foxes about. You could smell the desperation through the phone – it was like they had their mum breathing down their necks asking for grandkids.

If your date becomes your boyfriend then there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down.

But a guy will most likely be a little scared if you knock back a few shots before dinner.

Never empty your glass – You might be shaking like a leaf and nothing would settle your nerves more than to knock back the glass of wine on your table, but trust me, it’s not worth it.

If you want to stay in control of the date and keep him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.

Retain a bit of mystery and avoid sending him a friend request until you’ve got to know each other better. Pay attention to the introductions – We guys are extremely territorial (even though we may not know it) and once we’ve come to the conclusion that this is the woman we want, we’ll start saying things like “This is my girlfriend, Sarah”.

Once he has started calling you his girlfriend, babe, woman, or even his other half, he won’t stop.

Figuring out what is going on in a guy’s mind in the first few weeks of dating would really help a woman feel more assured, knowing that she is in control of the situation.

Here are a few tips to get you moving in the right direction.

He will want his own space and really appreciate you if you give it to him.

A final note – Commitment scares the hell out of us.

Which is why it baffles me that it’s always assumed that it’s only men who like their partners young. (I’ve always had a thing for Patrick Dempsey.) Holy. ‘I’ve dated older guys who have gone in way too hard way too soon with talking about getting married,’ agrees Katherine, 25. It didn’t take long before I moved my maximum age back down to 34.