He spends time every day carefully browsing through profiles and looking for women who he feels share his same interests – beyond the dating site’s algorithm which promises to perform its own magic in matchmaking. I spent hours trying to create a profile that shows people what I’m really like. Sure, I get a lot of profile “views”, but no messages.

Despite his efforts, few girls ever answer his carefully crafted, very kind messages. I started out using Match.com, but then a friend told me that the success rate is much better on OKCupid, so I switched over to that. I’ve scheduled about an hour a day to browse through profiles and I look for several things.

This experience is best exemplified by my close friend who I will call Eric.

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In hindsight, I suppose if I had stayed active with it for a little longer MAYBE I would have encountered a “nice” guy.

I have to mention that I did get maybe a message or two from guys that seemed okay, but once I checked out their profiles, it didn’t seem like we had anything in common so I didn’t bother.

The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.

What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.

Being a nice guy is probably the worst thing to be when it comes to online dating.

You are a little more than collateral damage, as the large majority of guys slather, drool and stomp their way through the crowds, scaring off most of the nice girls that arrive on these sites, as evidenced by the interview above.

That’s one of the issues I see with online dating though.

Words on a page can only tell you so much and often, they are not the best “first impressions”.

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