Have any of you ever played a friendly game of 21 questions? So ask this question so you can avoid pushing their buttons at all costs. Quiz them about some things you think they may like, or simply ask them what turns them on. We're asking about the depth of the persons character. If the answer is yes go further and ask which ones, and what are your names /alias'. You'll probably discover more about them from these sites than you will asking questions. No matter what type of relationship it was ask how long it lasted and why it ended. If they've answered this and you sense that you're incompatible don't try to change who you are to meet their expectations. Many people jump into commitments before they know who they've committed to!

Romance is a big part of keeping things fresh in a relationship, so it's helpful to know if you're dealing with someone who'll sweep you off your feet, or stumble their way through the relationship. It'll also let you know what you do and don't have in common. This way you can make a well informed decision about what you're willing to tolerate. Or you can use this as an opportunity to learn something new. Knowing what makes your prospective "bae" tic can be beneficial to you in the long, or short run. Being aware of what makes a person smile is always good, especially when you're trying to seal the deal. We're not talking about the superficial surface stuff. A lot of people have longevity and fidelity issues, and you want to have an idea of their relationship stamina before you move things ahead. If you ask this in the beginning you'll know if you can give them what they need, and if you're the person for them.

Knowing what a person likes to do will help when planning outings. Smoking, excessive drinking, or anything else you can think of that can be considered bad habits are things you should be conscious of. If they have any at all you may want to be aware of them just in case your beliefs clash. Everyone has something that turns them completely off!

Take a few moments of your dating time to play 21 questions with a potential love interest, and discover who they are before you commit to them. Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For?

As a motivational speaker, and advocate for single women she inspires single women to search their souls rather than searching for a soul mate.

She also inspires them to live their best single lives God's way!

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A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply your date things, although—given the fact that we never know how comfortable others are with casual conversation—that might be easier said than done. Where exactly do you live in [insert your city or town here]? Questions over the first drink should be an equal mix of inquisitive and casual, and should allow you to start gauging his or her true personality.

The trick to successfully vetting a prospect on a first date, while simultaneously keeping the energy light and fun, is knowing what questions to ask and how to ask them. What are their likes and dislikes, what do you have in common, what does he or she do in their spare time?

If you think things went well, don’t be afraid to let him or her know.

Time to seal the deal—the last few minutes of a date are crucial to make sure a second date happen.

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