Red flags when dating a guy
You deserve to date someone who treats you like the goddess you are, period.
If he wants you to change (by dressing differently, blowing off your friends, or drinking and partying when that's not your scene) that's a sign he doesn't really like you for , and you deserve someone much better. If a guy really likes you, he should let you know, and if you're in a relationship, that shouldn't even be a question. If it's not so clear, that's a red flag that merits a serious conversation.
“I should’ve taken that as a sign, but I figured it was Friday night, so I shouldn’t judge.
When we met up in person, he was a [jerk] and kept asking me if I ‘liked to party.’” So a good rule of thumb is: if your date is drunk the first time you talk to him on the phone, end it there.
Some practiced daters have a standard letter they send to every single person they find even mildly attractive.
Someone who truly wants to get to know you will take the time to write a personalized message responding to specific items in your profile, not send a generic cut-and-paste letter saying, “Hey girl, I saw your profile and was intrigued …” Think about the hundreds of other people who’ve gotten the same letter, and decide whether you’re willing to accept only the barest minimum of effort.
A person who constantly makes plans and then cancels them, or who can talk on the phone only at certain times of the day, either has an incredibly demanding job or is not quite as single as she claims.
It’s sad, but many married people troll dating sites, either looking for some action on the side or just seeking validation.
If one or two of these apply to your relationship, don't freak out: these are warning signs, which means the problems can still be fixed with an open, honest conversation.
But if more than a few ring true for you, that might mean that you and your boyfriend aren't meant to be — at least not right now.
What’s not okay is to expect potential suitors to conform to a long list of demands.
If you see a profile that specifies a required height/weight, salary, or supermodel looks, or includes domineering phrases like “I need …” or “I won’t tolerate …,” consider whether you could ever live up to this person’s impossible standards.
But even before you’ve agreed to meet someone, there may be warning signs of impending dating disaster … Our best online dating advice: before you respond to that next wink or personal message, start watching out for these red flags. A Picture That’s Worth Less Than a Thousand Words It’s normal to be suspicious of people whose pictures are blurry or far away, full of other random people, or purposely vague.