The uniformity of the mixture of various religious concepts in Vietnam—except among tribal peoples—tends to give a uniformity to marriage arrangements, ceremonies, feasts, dowry, etc.Because the individual is less important than the family, it is expected that the family will have a major voice in the selection of wives and husbands of their children.

Vietnamese believed that fate in marriage, as well as wealth and position, were preordained, though choice could play some role in activating a positive or negative fate.

Traditionally, children lived with their parents until marriage, and then the couple moved to the husband's father's household.

This is often done through a "go-between" (male or female) to save "face" in case it is deemed best to break off bargaining.

Another major factor in the choosing of marriage partners is consulting of horoscopes.

While dating in high school is, to put it simply, “cute,” it’s not true love. Hence, I can’t specify whether someone can find love in high school or not. If a person is lucky enough to develop a deeper relationship with someone, or if they decide to mold their own fate within the halls of their high school, they could form a relationship that blossoms into something special.

However, most teenagers are so unstable and so mentally immature that I’m not quite sure they would know what love is if it came and hit them in the face. There are young adults who have gone through certain experiences and endured certain hardships, which probably allowed them to grow up fast.

O’Harrow (1995) reports also that to give a woman a piece of fine jewelry in Vietnamese tradition is to help confirm her independence as a human being, and for a mother to hand over a piece of her jewelry to her daughter is a universally understood gesture, for which the subtext is "may this protect you from misery." Nowadays, divorce is increasingly easy to obtain.

[Source: Encyclopedia of Sexuality, 2.hu-berlin.de/sexology \*/ ] Factors to be seriously considered when choosing a marital partner in Vietnam are the social status of the families and the astrological-mystical affinities of the marriage partners.

When Vietnamese marry, the woman doesn’t change her family names.

So, within a family you will see different last names.

The wedding ceremony was quite simple: The future husband and wife met, mutually offered themselves to each other, and chewed betel nut together.