Yes, it's possible he's a wimp or insecure (and therefore not really robust dating material anyway).But it's far more likely he's e-blasting winks to innumerable women to see what kind of responses he'll solicit.-- except the MOST IMPORTANT ONE: "Can I have your number?

Gorgeous member never asks about the advance payment before meeting a Generous member.

If desired first date setting requires that a Gorgeous member travel to a different location then cost of transportation (airplane, bus, train tickets) is compensated by the Generous member (additionally to the payment for the first date).

Want to avoid the disappointments and aggravation of online dating? Pick the wrong ones and you'll waste time and energy, occasionally suffering wipe-outs that can leave you dazed, distracted and dispirited when the right man or wave comes along.

Girlfriends, you know what I'm talking about: the "no-show" flakes, the chronic complainers, the promising first couple of dates that lead nowhere? Signing up for online dating can be a little like learning to surf. Fortunately, men will signal their intentions and level of interest, usually in their very first e-mail. My goal for the women I coach is to go from receiving a few dozen e-mails a month to a few hundred, at which point weeding out the unsuitable and the un-serious becomes of paramount importance.

So here are some of the most obvious online dating "flags" I suggest you use to steer clear of players and time-wasters: 1. Beware if he sends you a "wink" or a "smile" instead of a properly written e-mail.

I guarantee that the man who will ultimately want to marry you will not send you a "wink." Please don't be fooled into thinking he's "shy" or just intimidated by your fabulousness.

Keep your replies short and sweet, light and breezy. You're a busy woman with lots of admirers, friends, projects and interests.

If he truly wants to get to know you better -- and you're not available for long e-mail correspondence (or long phone conversations, for that matter) -- he'll have no recourse than to step up and ask for a date.

– When should I pay for the date (as a Generous member)?

/ When should I ask someone to pay for the date (as a Gorgeous member)?

A man can e-mail you his photo directly, but it's still a red flag if he's hiding it on his profile.